Thinking about sex?

... here are some things to consider....

Sex is not just about physical pleasure, although it is often the feelings of sexual pleasure that drive us toward sex, especially in the teen years. Sex is intrinsically linked to our emotional selves so it is important to consider how you will feel about different things if you choose to become sexually involved with someone. It is also important to consider all the potential physical consequences as well, such as sexually transmitted infections, and of course pregnancy.

There is NO 100% effective method to protect you against all sexually transmitted infections... that is except abstinence. Barrier methods such as condoms are a risk reduction, not a risk elimination method. Whilst many sexually transmitted infections are curable, there are others for which we can only treat the symptoms, not cure the infection itself. This means that if you contract genital herpes for example, that you have it for life. For some people this can seem a high price to pay for a few moments of transient pleasure!

Around half the women who experience an unintended pregnancy, do so even though they are using contraception at the time. It is therefore obvious that contraception is not very reliable protection against pregnancy. The issue of an unintended pregnancy is as important for guys as it is for girls and guys have a few different things to consider such as:

  • If your girlfriend falls pregnant, are you prepared to have a relationship with her for the rest of your life, if only to be a parent to the child?
  • Are you ready and willing to financially and emotionally support a child for at least the next 18 years?
  • Are you aware that you will have no legal say in what you girlfriend decides to do with the pregnancy... terminate or continue? Are you prepared to live with either outcome for the rest of your life?
  • Are you willing to go with your girlfriend to tell her parents?

These are only a small snapshot of some of the issues you both need to think about. If you are not ready to be a father, or a mother, you may not be ready for the responsibilities of a sexual relationship. The potential consequences may affect the rest of your life..

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